Connecting With Your Kids Is Everything
Connection acts as a form of preventative ‘maintenance’. If your kids feel more connected to you, they’ll be more compliant and cooperative when you need it.
Why Shaming Kids Doesn’t Work Long-Term
Using shame as a tool might be effective in gaining compliance from children in the short-term, but it teaches them that they’re not ‘ok’. Here’s a different way to think about it…
Sibling Rivalry Psychology – What Parents Need To Know
Parents often get hooked into ‘referee mode’ when our kids are fighting. This is can show an imbalance of love for them. Here’s what to do instead.
10 Things To Teach Kids About Friendships And Bullying
Navigating bullying and friendships is difficult… as most of us can attest from personal experience. Knowing how to act in relation to others is extra tough for children because they don’t have the skills or life experience to understand how it all works. We need to remember that friendship skills are things we learn over …
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Parents Are The Secret Sauce When It Comes To Child Behavior
A lot of parents I see feel powerless when it comes to managing the mental health challenges, anxiety, and anger in their children – not to mention their general behavior – but parents are actually the secret sauce! Taking a child to see a therapist for 1 hour a week is great – we can do a …
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You Cannot Control The Trajectory Of Your Child’s Life (You CAN Do This …)
As parents, we often think we’re responsible for the trajectory of our children’s lives. That if we pick the wrong primary school or weekend activity it could set them on the road to ruin. In reality, all we have is influence. We can’t control all the variables they’ll face in life, nor their ultimate path. …
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How To Be A Good Parent, By Looking Within
The way you were parented impacts the way you parent your children. But it’s often not the way you’d choose to be doing it. I see it in the clinic, where 99% of people want to know how to be a good parent, but don’t know where to begin. The core issue is not that they’re …
Communication Problems? You’re Probably Speaking The Wrong Language
Ever looked at your kids and wondered ‘what’s their problem?’ or ‘why are you being like this?’ If you’re like 99% of parents, you probably just shouted ‘yes!’ at your phone 😆 The thing is, communication problems in the home usually boil down to parents and children speaking a different ‘language’ (figuratively!). Let’s say we …
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The Most Effective Method For Working With Anger In Your Children
Anger in children is a powerful emotion that often masks feelings of sadness and vulnerability. These feelings can make our children (and us) feel weak. In contrast to those feelings of weakness, anger has the opposite effect. It’s mobilising and makes us feel stronger and more powerful. The most effective method of working with anger …
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Discipline Your Child Without Punishment
Let’s talk about something that can be a little controversial – disciplining children. Yes, children need discipline, but the actual definition of discipline means ‘to guide’. To effectively guide others we do not have to be punitive nor do we have to threaten / reject them. For example, if I had a boss who was trying to …