The way you were parented impacts the way you parent your children. But it’s often not the way you’d choose to be doing it. I see it in the clinic, where 99% of people want to know how to be a good parent, but don’t know where to begin. The core issue is not that they’re …
Ever looked at your kids and wondered ‘what’s their problem?’ or ‘why are you being like this?’ If you’re like 99% of parents, you probably just shouted ‘yes!’ at your phone 😆 The thing is, communication problems in the home usually boil down to parents and children speaking a different ‘language’ (figuratively!). Let’s say we …
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Anger in children is a powerful emotion that often masks feelings of sadness and vulnerability. These feelings can make our children (and us) feel weak. In contrast to those feelings of weakness, anger has the opposite effect. It’s mobilising and makes us feel stronger and more powerful. The most effective method of working with anger …
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Let’s talk about something that can be a little controversial – disciplining children. Yes, children need discipline, but the actual definition of discipline means ‘to guide’. To effectively guide others we do not have to be punitive nor do we have to threaten / reject them. For example, if I had a boss who was trying to …
Rather than calling your kids ‘naughty’ or labelling them as ‘misbehaving’, try reframing it in your mind by applying this overarching truth – all behavior is communication. When you do that, you get curious. ‘What are they trying to communicate to me right now? Is it possible that they’re feeling frustrated because they’ve been stuck …
Some of our children are fighters. They’re in the ring every day, trying to stay on their feet, constantly swinging, and hopefully ducking before they get pummelled with a right hook. And some of our children would rather hide under the boxing ring, eyes squeezed shut, hoping everything will just go away. What can we …
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A lot of the irritation we have with our children stems from our own issues around being inflexible and deviating from routine (what we ‘planned on happening’). Asking myself, “How would I respond if this was a house guest?” has saved me many times from responding impatiently to my children, and instead reminded me how …
Isolating at home is causing a lot of distress for everyone, and I know a lot of grandparents are struggling with not seeing their grandkids regularly. I was recently a guest on the TeamKids podcast, where we chatted about all things COVID-19. This video specifically shares ideas around how to stay connected to grandparents or …
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Right now, we are all experiencing a global event where many of us feel helpless, powerless, and uncertain. Those elements are the perfect recipe for anxiety and trauma. What is trauma? Yes, it’s a situation where your life is in danger, but more commonly, we experience something as traumatic when we feel profoundly helpless or …
It’s so important we encourage children to ‘listen’ to their body when it’s sending them signals. Their physical sensations will almost always tell them more about their safety (or lack of) in a given situation than their limited cognitive experience. Once we help them understand the signals their bodies send when danger is near, we …
